Story #80. Road Trip: It’s Not About Arriving at Your Destination

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“Because the greatest part of a road trip isn’t arriving at your destination. It’s all the stuff that happens along the way”. ~Emma Chase.

I’m a road trip traveler since I was in Junior High, as I remember. Now i am 32 turning 33, so it’s been 20years more and less. LoL. Doing a road trip with family members and friends. Luckily I always get a job that give me such traveling activities, so yeah, I experience road trips for work. Well, it all start with a habit from my grandpa. Dad said that he used to doing on a road trip since he was young, going around the Java Island. Maybe some part of Sumatra as well, as Dad was born and spend his childhood at Pangkal Pinang, Sumatra. Then when Dad has us, he take us the same way as Grandpa did to him. For me, it’s a good idea to remembered Grandpa: moment that Dad spent with Grandpa.

Last time I go on a road trip was first weekend of this July. Only three of us: Me, Mom, Dad. From Jakarta heading Jogjakarta. Dad and I took turns driving a car. Friends was like:

“Why driving?”,

“Isn’t it easier to fly? Anyway 12 hours driving might make parents exhausted”,

“Oh, come on, just some time a go you travel with the same route!?” (Yup, we travel the same route about 2 weeks ago, LoL).

People don’t understand, and I don’t expect them to. But I can resume some stuff why a road trip is worth to try:

It’s not about arriving at the destination.

Friends was like: “Udah sampe mana?” , “why are you still at Purwokerto? was it a heavy traffic?”. If you have enough time, It’s fine to stop by at the small cities instead of just passing it thru. We can always explore the food culinary, or famous places to hangout, or randomly visit historical places can be fun. At this part, friends who ask such questions are innocent, wasn’t their fault that I love to stop by and exploring. Anyway we ain’t a travel bus service, no need to rush because it’s about the pleasure of the traveler.

Under the sky, earth is always change.

Before the highway, there are many restaurant along the Pantura way from Cirebon to Jakarta. Now as people use the highway, only Boboko Restaurant that still exist. Years ago, beaches gate along the Pantai Selatan are not as much as nowadays. We experience that things are change. We watch it, we experience it, we sometimes talked to people about the change and how it effect the economy life. Change is something we can never refuse, no? so hit it! Like we hit the road.

People who go on road trips are spontaneous, optimistic, and wise.

Really? Hahaha.. you tell me!

Basically, the more you experience to travel is the more you experience yourself to be spontaneous and optimistic. Wise come along with those two. Road trip will challenge survival skill and instinct different way with other kind of traveling.  Wherever you go (and) or stay, world are full of a diverse array of people and landscapes. No need to be friendly to everyone but once or twice somehow such challenge drives your personality into a better you.

“At the end of the day, the destination is just a stopover. It is only the journey that can drive you to contemplate and find yourself.”

Ciao!

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Story #79. Kapan Travelling Bareng Gue?

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“…karena travelling adalah ritual penyegaran jiwa, apresiasi terhadap hidup, terlepas dari renungan apakah hidupmu telah sungguh berguna atau tidak!

Di sela-sela sibuk dan penat, kadang muncul angan untuk nge-trip. Seringkali angan bersambut  kesempatan hadir di depan mata, tak mungkin dilewatkan! Fakta sesederhana ini yang lalu memunculkan kesan “Nes ngetrip terus ya!” Padahal gak juga, sekedar sempat ya why not, di sosmed gue gak selalu posting foto baru, terkadang foto lawas kok.

Beach or Mountain?

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Me, definitely beach. But I don’t mind for mountain. Yang penting have fun : ). Kalau pantai, isi ransel gue cukup hotpants dan tshirt2 tipis. Bisa masukin beberapa tshirt warna warni, gak makan banyak tempat karna sepele banget. Hotpants cukup 1 di tas, 1 lagi yang dipake. Sedangkan kalau ke daerah pegunungan, perlu siapin jaket, syal, topi hangat, bahkan sarung tangan dan kaos kaki. Gue kalau gak lagi naik ojek atau lagi dingin banget, hampir gak pernah jaketan. Pernah bawa-bawa jaket pas jalan ke Puncak, biar kayak orang-orang gitu kan jaketan, eh malah pas balik ke Jakarta jaketnya ketinggalan di villa, saking di sana juga gak gue pake ‘tu jaket, LoL. Kalau ke daerah dingin, gue suka tempelin koyo salonpas di udel, mungkin karena itu jadi gue gak terlalu berasa dingin. Koyo-nya yang hangat sedang aja, jangan koyo cabe, bisa kelar udel lo berasa ketampar-tampar : (

Backpack or Suitcase?

Apa aja boleh, yang penting gue bisa masukin hair dryer & catokan : ))

Bukan perkara centil, tapi gak setiap tempat nginap menyediakan hair dryer, jadi lebih baik bawa daripada habis keramas gak bisa keringin rambut lalu berakhir masuk angin! It’s about to cleanse the bitter taste of life from your soul, bawalah barang-barang yang memang berguna membahagiakan jiwa :- p

Camera(s)

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Mostly cam yang gue pake adalah cam iphone SE. Tapi dalam beberapa kesempatan gue ada pakai juga beberapa cam lain (kalau lagi niat). Gue ada beberapa cam di rumah, punya bokap sih. Gue gak gitu ngerti gimana pake nya supaya maksimal sih. Mungkin ada volunteer yang mau ajarin gue explore cara pake nya?? Sinih! :-*

Nah, kalo bahas cam, terus bahas obyek fotonya. Yang mukanya cakep, body nya oke sih bebas ya mau gaya gimana aja. Tapi buat yang gak pede an dengan muka dan bentukan ala kadarnya macem gue, jangan berkecil hati, sodara2! Ada banyak trick angle yang bisa kita pake supaya foto-foto kita tetep kece! : ), Anyway kalo di rating ini daftar urutan obyek yang paling gue suka: 1. View (esp the sky); 2. Food; 3. Myself (ini mesti ambil dari agak jauh, biar viewer lebih fokus sama background pemandangan! Hehehe)

Gue gak selalu merasa nyaman untuk minta tolong orang lain buat fotoin gue, so instead of bothering people, I set myself an angle and timer di cam.

Ittenary

Ada kalanya gue memang punya ittenary sebelum ngetrip, jadi tau nantinya mau kemana aja. Ini penting supaya jangan mendadak galau. Tapi beberapa kali juga gue pergi spontan aja. Udah sampe di lokasi, baru deh tentuin enaknya mau jalan kemana. Ini gak susah kok, karena kadang pas udah nyampe di kota yang di tuju, mood baru bagus, cuaca cerah, nah muncul deh ide buat kemana. Lagian ya, kita gak hidup di jaman batu. Ada smartphone, jaringan 3G/4G, kuota internet gak mahal kok, lagian wi fi is almost everywhere, kita bisa googling ada tempat seru apa aja di sekitar kita.

You know what, i mean it with what i’m saying. Really, travelling memang apreasiasi terhadap hidup. Jadilah lebih hidup dengan lebih menghargai hidup. Bekerjalah lebih smart, supaya lebih disayang sama bos, dapet bonus yang baik, dikasih day off (even tough itu adalah hak karyawan) buat pergi liburan. Berbagilah lebih banyak, perduli lah lebih sering. Itulah bentuk nyata dari bersyukur. Last but not least, jangan lupa prepare budget dan ijin orang tua sebelom pergi ngetrip!

Nah, jadi kapan nih, ngetrip bareng gue? :- )

 

Ciao,

See you in my next episodes of life!

Story #78. About Writing and Pray

Writing

noun

the activity or skill of marking coherent words on paper and composing text.

Pray

verb

address a solemn request or expression of thanks to a deity or other object of worship.

(Source: google)

Kenapa dua hal ini yang aku angkat?

Katanya, writing is a good therapy for to keep your mind away from insanity. It is similiar like painting, people can just release their feeling in painting. Writing is about words, as mentioned above it is a skill of marking coherent words. I might not skilled enough. Writing is a hobby and anyway it is work to keep me feel alive.

As I’m not a type of indulging anger, sadness, disappointment, or whatever in the social media like facebook and instagram, wtf. But here, I can feel so alive, it is more comforting me to speak up to people that I don’t see regularly and I don’t know who. So that’s how the therapy works for me.

Pray

Why pray? I’m not a kind of religious one. Jarang berdoa, ke gereja pun bolong-bolong, gak setiap minggu. I realize that by praying, God gives us what we need instead of what we want. Gave me patient when I’m in a hard situation. Gave me strength to pass things through. Calm to face the storm.

I don’t always get a yes rightaway by praying. Tapi selalu Tuhan memberikan yang aku butuhkan. And praying is like guide people to another as a form to accomplish what we need and what we want. Indeed.

Ciao!

Story #77. Bapa, aku lelah.

Tuhan,

Apa salahku yang begitu besar hingga Kau tak kunjung mengabulkan doa ku tentang pasangan hidup?

Tuhan,

Betapa Engkau mencukupkan hidupku. Aku hidup tidak berkekurangan. Uang gajiku memang selalu numpang lewat saja, tapi sedikit2 kadang aku bisa mentraktir keluarga, ajak mama ke salon dan jalan2. Masih bisa berbagi, bersedekah. Makanku cukup. Kebutuhanku untuk berpenampilan pantas juga Kau cukupkan.

Tuhan,

Apa kiranya yang menghadangnya datang padaku? Bertahun2 ku berserah dan memohon pada Mu, supaya Engkau mempertemukan dan mempersatukan aku dengan pasangan hidup yang Engkau pilihkan untukku. Tapi dimana dia Kau sembunyikan? Berapa banyak lagi rintangan yang Kau sodorkan pada kami hingga kami belum bertemu? Berapa banyak lagi hati yang harus sakit dan patah? Berapa kali lagi harus kulalui kecewa dan putus asa?

Tuhan,

Hari ini aku sedih sekali. Ya, lagi-lagi bersedih. Tidakkah Kau iba padaku bahwa sedih yang sama ini seperti siklus yang selalu muncul setiap beberapa bulan? Apakah yang Engkau inginkan dalam hidupku, Tuhan? Bagaimanakah Engkau ingin aku terbentuk?

Bapa,

Kupanggil Kau seperti yang Kau ajarkan. Bukankah selama ini aku menurut padaMu? Bukankah selama ini aku mendengarMu? Atau bisikanMu terlalu lirih tak bisa mengalahkan jerit dan isak tangisku yang penuh putus asa?

Bapa,

Tidakkah mataMu melihat aku bersyukur untuk segala cobaan dan nikmat yang Kau beri? Betapapun aku terpuruk, betapapun mulut ku mengumpat memaki tapi berselang waktu, aku mensyukurinya, karena ku tahu Engkau baik, ku yakin dan ku tahu selalu ada hikmah dalam setiap cobaan. Tak perlu kusebutkan disini, karena setiap kali hikmah datang, hatiku berseri “I know that was You, Father.”

Bapa,

“Semoga Engkau berkenan mempertemukan dan mempersatukan aku dengan pasangan hidup yang telah Engkau siapkan bagiku. Persatukanlah kami dalam sakramen pernikahan kudus”. Tidakkah Kau mendengarnya, Bapa? Di setiap doaku. Dalam belasan mungkin puluhan tahun selama hidupku.

Bapa,

Engkau penciptaku, Engkau yang membentuk hatiku, sungguhkah Engkau membiarkannya hancur lagi dan lagi? Untuk hal yang sama.

Perihal Cinta,

Kapankah bisa kurasakan tulus dan benar?

Bapa,

Aku tidak memilih fisik tubuh seperti ini. Bukan tanpa susah payah aku menjaganya dari pria-pria yang cuma ingin “iseng” denganku. Aku tidak memilih berkecukupan materi, Engkau yang mencukupkan aku. Bukan mudah kudapat. Bukan perkara mudah juga ketika segala hal duniawi yang lekat padaku mengundang para adam sialan untuk “sekedar” bersamaku. Bapa, Terjadilah padaku menurut kehendakMu.

Bapa, sore ini aku merasa lelah sekali. Sangat lelah. Bolehkah dalam tidurku nanti Engkau usap kepalaku dan bisikkan padaku bahwa aku akan baik-baik saja?

I’m fine.

Story #76. My Karimun Jawa Trip

April 2018.

“Sometimes, a break from your routine is the very thing you need”.

My random blog. I write whatever here. Mostly junk! 😜

Meet me under the sky of Karimun Jawa Island. I wanna come to this island since like 8 years ago. Funny that I went to some other beautiful places and kinda forget about this one. Then when I make this travel, I count, really it’s been eight years since I told myself that I wanted to be here. But thank God the facilities are getting better now. Now I’ll share you 8 things you should know about the Island and the to do list.

1. How to get there from Jakarta

I start the trip on Friday night. Took a night train from Gambir station. Argo Bromo Anggrek 375K. Executive class. We need some well sleep. The train was arrived at 10pm. Depart to Semarang Poncol station early in the morning. Then we took a travel minibus (like colt diesel with a very small baggage). The driver picked us up at the station, take us to the port. It cost 50K per person. We are 12pax anyway. We come by for breakfast. 6 in the morning, eating Soto!! LoL 😅.

The ride took about 1,5hour to get to the port. We were informed that the speedboat will leave by 8am. Well, it’s a common thing if it’s delay like 1 or 2 hours. But it wasn’t, as a matter of fact, the boat arrive at about 9, then it takes about 1,5hour to reload the gas. If you plan for this trip, you should concern on this thing: make sure your boat ticket has a seat number! Some guy sell tickets without seat number. Lucky us we all get one. Our ticket price are include with the tour package.

It’s 2 hours 15 min that we sail. Consume sleeping pils before is the best advice.

2. Homestay

We choose homestay with aircon. No hot water. As we’re a small gang, they put us in rooms with small balcony that we have it for breakfast and dinner.

3. Meal

Breakfast and dinner are provide by the homestay, but as I was there they’re all spicy. Prepare kind of “abon” would be fine. Unlike at Pulau Seribu, here instant noodle seller is hard to find. You can find one at Pulau Kecil.

4. Beachwear

Bikinis allowed. I saw some ppl wearing bikini even tough i’m the only girl in the gang wear one. I was once come to one of island at Pulau Seribu and it was a fasting month, and it was a mistake to wear a sexy beachwear. The society was like kinda more religious at that moment they hate what we wear 🙈.

5. View Under the Sea

One word: Magic!

The underwater scenery is awesome. And it’s clean. No junk. This is my nephew have some fun underwater 😍

The guide takes us to beautiful spot for snorkling. There are 2-3 spot of snorkling. Depend on how many time we have to spent there. I think the one next to the Pulau Kecil is the most beautiful. Everyone got a nice under water shot, also some videos!

6. The Shark Spot

It is pace your adrenaline.

One rule: keep your hands up while you’re in the water with the baby sharks.

7. The Night Market at Alun Alun

Night after snorkling and play around the beach, it is a good idea to come to the Alun alun where you can find street seafood (but there’s chicken as well, in case your travelling partner is allergic). You can also find kind of souveneer.

Too bad that I didn’t join the gank to this place. I was so unwell that night, it was sucks I just lay in the bad and run to the toilet to throw up over and over. Thank God I felt so much better in the next day.

8. What are you waiting for? Stop reading and set the date! Go have some fun!! 😘

Ciao!

See ya next episode my life story.

Story #75. Sugar Bear: A Shot Just in Time

2017.

“I don’t think you’ll understand what your voice does to me”.

 

You came to me unexpectedly. Randomly delivered by the universe. Pretty face. Told you that I don’t mind waking up that face. I like the way you look at me when we’re talking. I like your laugh, i love the voice when you say goodnight on the phone. I love our talks on the phone that we often did while I’m driving back home after work. Both of the sweet and the naughty talks. LoL 😜. “Hey Bear.. accompany me driving, wud youuu?” and so we talked on the phone along my way. Talking about whatever, flirt to each other. Sweet you.

 

I understand that we’re separate by distance in the name of “duty” that you should leave for months. I’m fine with the distance. In fact it gives me “a room” that I need but hard to get. Distance is good for me in order to avoid ridiculous engagement with someone new. You said I’m so spoiled when I’m with you. Really? Well, maybe it is you that spoiled me. I always miss our talks: the jokes, the way we comment our daily life. Silly that I can even enjoy for not talking to you for days. Then talk to you again is like a kid meet chocolate. LoL. I miss you now. Between reality in our daily life and desire to feel love, we both know love can’t be forced. Maybe we fine this way. I just wonder how do you know that I miss you? Do you feel the same? Because you come over when I feel it. I’m asking it for myself, don’t want to asked you such question because I’m too busy with our sweet talks, lulled by your voice.

 

You came like a new engine that boost my day. A shot that I need. Now it’s been a while since we don’t talk. Doesn’t matter. I expect to see you again, later when you come back to to Jakarta. To your home.

 

Ciao!

 

Story #74. Hurt


“A woman like me, hides a thousand feelings behind my happiest smile. When the time’s come, call me cold, call me heartless, you name it. Really, I don’t mind. Maybe I am”.

 

 

Hey…

Really, sometimes in life my heart breaks into pieces. Another time, it could shine so bright when I feel love is real and make me alive.

Love. How can I describe what it is? I guess mostly people are just too theoritical about it, no? For me love is like a fuel that keeps me live, but in other side it works like poison to me. Talk to me about love among families, among friends. But to live a life I need more than that. I’m addicted to some kind of feeling that boost me in whatever i’m doing, even in some certain periodic it brings me down, and an offering of the new love’s come over.

You. Dozen or hundreds of you out there. I didn’t say that you’re all the same. Of course every you is a new “stuff” for me. My burning red, sambabi, sugar bear, papa bear, sweetbabe, etc whoever you are. People said that there’s a lesson we learnt from someone we met in our live. Every new character, new style, new story, new you… literally. Somehow I feel sorry that i can make none of them stay. There’s fight, there’s moment of avoid each other. Then after that, a new you come to my life. People sees it as I’m easily replacing someone in my heart. Well I don’t blame them that they don’t understand what I really feel: hurt.

Ciao!

Story #73. Time will Heal, Time will Kill

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It’s you and me, we’re no longer “us” as it’s always just “you” and “I” since the beginning.

 

You talk to me about the future which I don’t see. Walk with me even I’ve told you I can promise you nothing. Stay by my side without any doubt. I don’t beg, not even asked you to stay.

 

We often talk about random things. You said my music taste is good, well thank you, while I stupidly hard to understand the songs that you listen to. I often need to hear it more than once to find the meaning and trying to understand why you like that kind of songs, and you share me a loooot of songs. LoL. I listen to kind of easy listening songs, my limited brain can accept it better. You listen to umm.. indie? (not sure). In my mind you’re smart and that’s cool, really. We just keep talking to each other, there’s always story to tell. My stories are mostly about my own stupidity. Do you realize that most of the time we didn’t asked things like “where are you?” and “what are you doing?”. We’re busy talking about nonsense and laugh about stuff and our imagination. Remember when you leave for a duty somewhere out of the city, then stop by to the beach and the guy that you go with is never take pictures properly. He was always capture it wrong. You were in the right place with the wrong person! Really I wish I were there with you, at least I can give you a better shot of photograph. LoL.

 

Time goes by. I really had a good time with you. Always. We’re getting closer and I warned you not to fall for me. I mean it but it’s too late. You said you find way back home in me. I don’t feel the same, I’m sorry to hurt you. Call me cruel, call me heartless but I’m just being honest, because lies hurt you the most. I let the memories of us stay as they are constant reminders of an episode of life, so I let it be. Old saying said that time will heal a broken heart. Maybe time heals nothing. It just replaces memories. Maybe time will heal, maybe time will kill.

 

You will heal, but it will take time for you to fall for someone again.” Love is a slippery slope. It can either be the most beautiful thing in the world, or the most devastating feeling in the history of human existence. It has the potential to be an enchanting and magical experience and also to be a treacherous and traumatizing affair. We all have our own unique love stories; each of them varying by degrees and kinds. Some of them are great and terrific, while others are toxic and danger…(~the conscious mind).

 

Ciao!

 

Story #72. Another Year Older (And Still As Sexy As Ever)

Untitled-2Oct, 14th. 2017.

 

It was a bbq night after we had a  fun session of the retreat. We’re less than 20 people there which is perfect! The bbq little party was outdoor in the backyard, the same place we had meal day and night. The night was a clear sky, wind blowing a little bit cold as we’re on the mountain area. We’re all enjoying soda, chips, french fries while we’re waiting the sausage guy served his best grilled sausage, LoL, nah, no waiters, we’re all self service. I was here because bunch of my besties were here, one of them came from Surabaya. How can I missed the chance to not be with them : ) But I must say, the sessions of the retreat was awesome! I’ll tell you about this in another page.

 

Well, as I was busy eating snacks I look around and realize that some people are missing. I went inside to grab whoever might sleep in the room. But I met a girl before I reach the bed room, I asked her “hey where’ve you been? you plan to sleep earlier, eh? hahaha…”. She reply me with a big smile on her face, “I’m looking for Grace, oh look there she is!” she pointed a girl behind me then lead me turn back to the bbq area. While after I hear a happy birthday song play in the speaker with a high volume. I had nothing in mind, well, maybe one of us ever plan to have an early birthday celebration but I had no idea it would be here. Among people we know just now. Three of us, our birth date are close to each other. A second while I’m still busy with my mind and eating chips,   a small cake come with three candles, some yelled “Happy Birthday!!!”. I was so surprise. I saw the candles, I guess those are kind of candles firecrackers? that when you blew it and think it is done, it could be on fire again. LoL, but we’re in outdoor anyway, the wind helps us so we ain’t get too much effort to blew the candles! I was asking several times, “hey, is it really for us?” as I still can’t believe they do it here. I have an additional reason to be happy that night! and the sweet perfect little surprise is a bonus! I love you, guys!!!

 

I check on the photos, can’t lie, happiness looks gorgeous on all of us! And three of us, like you see, another year older and we’re still sexy as ever : ). Sometimes happiness is a feeling, sometimes it is a decision.

 

 

Cheers for birthday boys and girls on October! Ciao!

See you in my next episodes of life.